Monthly Archives: March 2019

Truth and Lies

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We live in a world that is upside down, that says one thing and does another. We are told to tell the truth and then told to be polite (which urging us to lie all the time with the intention of saving face and keeping everybody happy). The rules that we are brought up with keep changing. The real truth about all of us mentally is that we are confused, and control is part of that confusion. We feel we need to control ourselves in order to tell the lies we are forced to tell and to keep up with the rules as they keep changing. Once we enter the world of control (even of ourselves), we are then susceptible to being controlled by anyone and everyone. We are lost and confused

We lie in marriages, we lie in business, we lie in religions, we lie in schools, and we lie in government. We are all liars, we have created a world of illusion from words, and the brain we are born with becomes polluted with the fake. We can pretend that we are kind and do good deeds to fool ourselves that we are helping the world, but we have separated ourselves from the truth, and we have each created this fake self. When you tell a lie; you’re saying that someone either isn’t worth the truth, doesn’t deserve the truth, or can’t be trusted with the truth. Everyone deserves it, though, and it’s up to them what to do with it, not you.

Truth is a living, vibrant thing. It lives and dies every second. Lies do not die until the truth of them is spoken.

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I’m Like a Butterfly

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To love me is like catching a butterfly

That is always able of flying and escaping

You can’t cage me

Or own me or have me

I always fly

I always leave

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Depression

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For those who don’t know the full extent of what depression is… it is not an emotion that manifests only when circumstance presents an unfortunate causation, to then fleet away when the cause and circumstances change. It is the occurrence of unbalanced chemical activity in the brain which may spark sudden and unexpected severe mood changes that do not warrant cause or circumstantial stimuli. However, cause and circumstance can worsen the effect of depression. So the next time you see a friend or loved one hurting in a depressive state, don’t ask them “what’s wrong?” or “what happened?”.

Instead, probe to find out what you can do to make them feel better. Ask them if they would like to build a hidden fortress out of blankets, ask them if they’d like to help you demolish a bucket of ice cream while you tell them fun stories or memories. Be a friend… not just another face in the crowd who doesn’t try to understand.

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On Women’s day empower your daughters

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Since I was a child, I can remember being told that I needed to learn how to cook and iron to find a husband. Then I started to come across these oh so cool teen magazines telling young girls what to do to keep a man, to make a man happy or to keep him from leaving, and I always wondered if men magazines were educating them on how to treat a lady. Only to realize that nope ” Men will be men” and we need to suck it up and do what it takes to keep one. Society molds young women to be feeling inferior and insecure trying to tell them that if they don’t conform it is normal to be cheated on or mistreated.

And if you think about it, females throughout history have been beaten down, downtrodden, and been made to feel stupid. All females are at the effect of this history. It has been part of our society to consider females dumber. This bias has been passed down from generation to generation, and it doesn’t come only from the males, it comes from the females of the prior generations as well. They bought into the conditioning and passed it on to their children. Although it is not true that women are dumber, many societies believe that is true, and both sexes perpetuate that belief.

Teach your daughters to know their worth and to be the best version of themselves. Teach her that she can tame the dragon, splits the atom, owns the castle, and do it all in a really comfortable pair of shoes.  Let her grow up idolizing women who were called “bossy” and “difficult” and “unconventional,” without feeling like she should apologies for it. Let your daughters learn the value of being self-motivated, self-reliant, and self-loved. Allow your daughters to grow up without the subtle weight of being “just a girl” that is historically thrust upon us with a smile and a pat on the head.

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