Not a very happy Father’s Day

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Today is Father’s Day; father is supposed to be a child’s first protector, mentor, and hero but unfortunately for many a father can be their first nightmare and tormentor, so:

Not a very happy Father’s Day for those children who have always been dismissed by their fathers whenever they wanted approval or to be appreciated.
Not for those children who suffer every day and want their father to reach out to them or help them and be there for them in their dark times.
Not for those children who felt envious or teary eyed every day while growing up when they saw other fathers being physically affectionate towards their children because they never received it.
Not for those children who never felt loved by their father regardless of how hard they tried.
Not for those children who got beaten up and bruised and molested by a father or father figure.
Not for those children whose father seemed to love and be proud of anyone else but their children and their achievements.
Not for those children who confuse abuse or rape for love.

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  1. Whoa Nadine you’re going down a dark path here. But you’re right. This goes for both parents… I’m a living witness for this. Your post just makes me want to cry… and for this reason I’m pouring all the love I never got to my son.

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    • Yes, the majority are writing loving posts on Father’s day. Sorry dear Jess that my post brought nearly to tears by remembering the past =( I’m glad you survived this and the proof is you are now a loving mother to your son. And absolutely this goes to both parents, mothers can be cruel, abusive, and monster towards their children too. I always say not everyone deserve to have or should be allowed to have children.

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      • Nah, nothing to be sorry. It’s part of who I am, got to deal with it peacefully to live happily. Besides, what you wrote is reality. There are children out there suffering at the hand of their father at the day everyone want to celebrate this days. A horrible reality. Tsk!

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      • Love you Jess for being courageous woman ❤ An awful reality indeed, these awful parents kill the innocence of their children and can ruin their life. The problem with society is they like to sweep dirt under the rug and pretend everything is fine.

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      • You can say they are emotional abuser towards their children. And yes mostly this type has an awful story too behind this cold treatment towards their children

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      • That’s just sad, he never knew the love of a mother and he must spend all his life grieving for a mother he didn’t get to know. Without our mothers’ love how we can continue our life normally! No wonder he was emotionally cold,

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      • He was not cold as such, simply did not express his emotions; bottled them up. Of course this has an effect on the physical body over time. He died in his 50s, of a heart attack. 😒

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      • Yeah that’s common for men, at least where I live, to bottle their feeling, society can be hard on men saying things “like he has to man up” God forbid if a man cries or shows emotion. He passed away so young, but this is not surprising he lived with a broken heart all his life and this affected him physically as well

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      • He “served” in World War Two but he didn’t talk about it. I sometimes wonder(ed) what he experienced in those years. And then his wife (my mother) could be very, let us say, difficult. 😦

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      • You’re never really the same after going or witnessing a war. There’s nothing heroic about war. it will break you for sure seeing deaths and destruction everywhere. It can drive one to depression, your dad suffered a lot since he was born =(

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      • Yes. It is very easy to criticise someone for their poor parenting but not so easy once we know their own back story. I suppose that is why I decided to share so much of my father’s. 😒

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      • I’m glad you did, I felt sorry for your dad, poor, poor man. All this suffering in his short-lived life. Indeed. life is unfair to some, and like you said sometimes it’s easier to judge without knowing what the person went through during his lifetime

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  2. We must learn from the mistakes of others. I lived in 11 foster homes. Taught me to be a good father. My AWOL parent taught me to raise my children in the safety of one house and they have a place to come when life is hard. Maybe we can learn to become better people.

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    • WHAT 11 foster homes? God knows what you went through living in these 11 homes. However, there is silver lining in your story, you become a better person than your own father by being at peace with your past and healing your wounds, Many people fail to that, and they pass their traumas down to their children, creating a never ending-cycle

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