I think expectations kill a lot of relationships, love shouldn’t come with a check list. Too
often people compare what they have to movies and their friends’ relationships. Taking
silly advice like, if he doesn’t hold your hair back when you throw up it’s not real or if
she doesn’t call you when she’s drunk out with her friends than it isn’t real. But love is
spontaneous, love is madness. You argue viciously but at the end of the day you don’t
want to see anyone else’s face but theirs. It’s not about waiting for your prince charming,
but going out to find your own happy ending. It’s not about the material things you could
bring to her. It’s something that just feels right something that isn’t forced. You could
have a complete checklist and still feel like somethings not right. It’s not supposed to be
perfect to everyone else, it’s supposed to be right just for you. If you should find yourself
unhappy then be fair to let one another know to save yourselves some time to recover,
give each other that closure too. Don’t settle for any less than you deserve, throw away
I’ll start this by saying I am a VERY opinionated person and a vocal one at that!
Opinions are who we are, our morals, values and beliefs…..
Opinions are what make the world an interesting place. A world without different opinions would be a boring place….
Opinions are what make us who we are as an individual. They are based off things we have learned since day one, they are based off beliefs we have and the morals and values we stand on. It’s sad that our opinions are also 90% of the reason why we fight and treat others like crap. They are the number one reason why people make fun of others and find reasons to break someone’s spirit. It’s sad that we can’t just live knowing that you won’t always agree with someone but that is okay. It’s sad that people can’t agree to disagree and move on instead they feel the need to make fun, call names and belittle one another. I wonder if for one day you chose to allow others to have their point of view and you have yours and it still be okay if you’d realize how much happier you would be.
I have to admit I never cared about people opinion about or whether they like me or not. Some people can’t digest the idea that someone doesn’t like them. We can’t really take it personally when it becomes clear to us that someone dislikes us. Well, in reality, we all do sometimes take it very personally, however, our taking it personally is not really reflective of the absolute truth of the situation.
Some people are going to dislike us no matter what, without really knowing us and without having really had much contact with us at all. Some people will dislike us and they themselves will not really know why exactly! It may seem “unfair” and may annoy us, but, there it is, isn’t it? It is often not really based at all on what we may have done or what we have failed to do, but on “personal chemistry”, which comes out of ours and their past conditioning and experiences with others.
But just because someone dislikes us or just because we may dislike them that is still no reason why we both can’t love one another. Loving and liking are really two different things. It’s nice when they exist together, but they don’t really have to.