From birth to age of old
The world begins tearing your soul
From birth to age of old
Society brands and seers your flesh
From birth to age of old
The challenge is to find yourself
Since I was a child, I can remember being told that I needed to learn how to cook and iron to find a husband. Then I started to come across these oh so cool teen magazines telling young girls what to do to keep a man, to make a man happy or to keep him from leaving, and I always wondered if men magazines were educating them on how to treat a lady. Only to realize that nope ” Men will be men” and we need to suck it up and do what it takes to keep one. Society molds young women to be feeling inferior and insecure trying to tell them that if they don’t conform it is normal to be cheated on or mistreated.
And if you think about it, females throughout history have been beaten down, downtrodden, and been made to feel stupid. All females are at the effect of this history. It has been part of our society to consider females dumber. This bias has been passed down from generation to generation, and it doesn’t come only from the males, it comes from the females of the prior generations as well. They bought into the conditioning and passed it on to their children. Although it is not true that women are dumber, many societies believe that is true, and both sexes perpetuate that belief.
Teach your daughters to know their worth and to be the best version of themselves. Teach her that she can tame the dragon, splits the atom, owns the castle, and do it all in a really comfortable pair of shoes. Let her grow up idolizing women who were called “bossy” and “difficult” and “unconventional,” without feeling like she should apologies for it. Let your daughters learn the value of being self-motivated, self-reliant, and self-loved. Allow your daughters to grow up without the subtle weight of being “just a girl” that is historically thrust upon us with a smile and a pat on the head.
Some people amaze me, Some people disgust me, some people worry me, some people like me, some people love me, some people aren’t worth trusting, some people I give too much trust to, some people talk about me, some people defend me, some people love with all their heart, some people still don’t know how to love, some people care too much about material things, some people will always chase something they will never catch, some people have their priorities mixed up, some people don’t even have priorities, some people care, some people don’t, some people dream, some people are jealous of other people, some people lie, some people tell half the truth, some people are true to their self, some people forget about where they came from, some people appreciate the little things, some people have everything and still can’t be happy, some people are nice, some people are rude, some people bully other people, some people smile all the time. And I sit here thanking my lucky stars for allowing me to know some people!
I think expectations kill a lot of relationships, love shouldn’t come with a check list. Too
often people compare what they have to movies and their friends’ relationships. Taking
silly advice like, if he doesn’t hold your hair back when you throw up it’s not real or if
she doesn’t call you when she’s drunk out with her friends than it isn’t real. But love is
spontaneous, love is madness. You argue viciously but at the end of the day you don’t
want to see anyone else’s face but theirs. It’s not about waiting for your prince charming,
but going out to find your own happy ending. It’s not about the material things you could
bring to her. It’s something that just feels right something that isn’t forced. You could
have a complete checklist and still feel like somethings not right. It’s not supposed to be
perfect to everyone else, it’s supposed to be right just for you. If you should find yourself
unhappy then be fair to let one another know to save yourselves some time to recover,
give each other that closure too. Don’t settle for any less than you deserve, throw away
It is important, to tell the truth to yourself first before speaking it to someone else. Often it is easier to see something in someone else and not realize that you are that as well. So, first look at yourself and speak the truth to yourself before you speak it to another. When you speak the truth to yourself, it cuts like a knife; it hurts because you are seeing the truth of yourself, and sometimes it is not so pretty. You may even deny it. Everyone has the lowest opinion of themselves, and that is what they want to hide. Once you open that door of speaking truth with yourself, you discover the true ecstasy of being free, and you can see more clearly. Then when you look at someone else and speak the truth with them, it doesn’t include any attachments because you have cleared it in yourself first. That is where trust is, that place you have cleared yourself; and when you trust yourself, you can see another person clearly.